🏫How to talk to your child's school about what's happening at home

General information only. Every school is different — use what feels right for your family.

You decide what to share

You are not obliged to disclose details of separation, court matters or family violence to a school. You can share only what helps them support your child and nothing more.

A short script you can adapt

"Hi [teacher/wellbeing coordinator], we're going through some changes at home that may affect [child's name] over the next few weeks/months. They may be more tired, emotional or distracted than usual. I'd appreciate a heads-up if you notice anything at school. Please keep this confidential to those who need to know."

What to ask for

• A point of contact (often the wellbeing coordinator or year-level leader).
• That information stays with staff who teach your child, not the broader staffroom.
• A check-in with the school counsellor for your child if appropriate.
• That communication for things like permission slips and reports comes to you (and to the other parent separately if relevant).

If there are court orders

Provide the school with a copy of any current parenting orders or AVOs. Schools generally need to see the document — verbal descriptions aren't enough. Check with your lawyer about what to share.

You may find it easier to prepare after reading the age-by-age language guide for family changes, signs a child's reaction may need extra help, and free mental health supports for kids. For everyday structure, see the seven-step school morning routine.

Keep it short

A single email is often better than a long meeting. Save longer conversations for when something specific comes up.